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Family routines that survive real life
Mornings that start with a fight set the tone for the whole day. Ilonka helps families build simple, visual routines for the parts of the day that break down most.
Why routines fail
Most routines are built for a family's best day.
A routine with twelve steps, set by hope, collapses on the first hard morning. Ilonka builds the other kind: few steps, same order, same time, designed for the tired day, and supported by pictures or lists your child can see.
The Ilonka way
Three rules behind every routine she builds.
One routine at a time
Fix the morning first, or bedtime, not the whole day at once. One win gives the family energy for the next.
Make it visible
Visual supports are Ilonka's specialist training. A chart on the wall ends the daily debate about what comes next.
Practice on calm days
New routines are taught when nobody is rushed or upset, then used on the hard days.
Questions
Before you start
How long does a new routine take to stick?
Most families see a routine start to hold in two to four weeks of steady use, if the steps are few and the start time stays the same. Coaching adjusts the routine when real life shows where it breaks.
What if my child fights the routine?
Start smaller. One step, done the same way, beats five steps argued over. Ilonka builds routines with visual supports and calm day practice, the same approach she uses in her classroom for medically frail students.
Do routines work for teenagers?
Yes, when the teenager helps build them. For teens, coaching focuses on agreement, independence, and natural consequences, not charts designed for small children.
Initial assessment: $75 for one hour
Follow-ups: $50 for 40 minutes
Extra time: $10 per additional 10 minutes
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Build one routine that holds.
Email Ilonka to request the $75 initial assessment or ask whether coaching is the right fit.